Monday 24 June 2013


Associations in the world today are comprised of those who know God and those who do not know God.

A follower of God is hungry for God and all that pertains to Him. The best contact should be with people of similar minds and similar passion. There is no nexus between the light and darkness. As a child of light working in the world which is full of darkness, the light must stand out for illumination purposes for relevancy.

Counsel comes to all in the world but when the counsel contradicts scriptures or biblical ethics consent must not be given by the child of God.  Consent is shown by your agreement to do what you know deep within you God would not support you in doing.

Today many Christ followers are caught in the web of compromise. They do not stand for the kingdom but desire to reign with God at the end when the believers are raptured. The truth is that you cannot afford as a Christ follower to engage in same things as the world or do it the world way but rather the Christ follower must engage in doing it the way God would have it done. 

1 John 2:15 says (We are not to love this world nor the things it offers, for when we love the world, we do not have the love of the Father in us).

Scriptures say WHEN SINNERS ENTICE YOU CONSENT THOU NOT (Proverbs 1:10).  Things may not be going on so good with your finances, your relationship etc. Do not give consent when the only counsel you get is to participate in iniquity or do something the Holy Spirit is cautioning you about because it would not give glory to the father.

Yes in the multitude of counsel there is safety and safety only comes when the counsel is from the   chosen vessel of the lord and not that the Devil the prince of this world brings across your way.

Can I also state that, wrong counsel could come from anybody, and I mean anybody, the least person you would expect.  When I had challenges in my life, there were so many counsels even the ones that were deemed right in my sight.  Nonetheless, I found out that, the best person to counsel is the Holy Spirit and also, as Christians, we can tell God to bring the right counsellors our way and He would bring the right counsellors our way.  However, if people come with the wrong counsel regardless of who they are, the Holy Spirit should prompt one immediately.   One would be able to sift the counsel .  #Myss Lafunky’s perspective#

Right associations will produce right counsel which in turn will cause heaven to be pleased. Many have missed it because they followed a wrong counsel.  Many troubles can be avoided if we adhere to godly counsel which only the believers can provide for they too are walking with God as you are and know the rules of engagement as contained in scriptures.

While some people have missed it because it is too late to undertake the right action, some people have not missed it.  Are you reading this blog and you are about to take an action that you are having doubt about? STOP and ask God to tell you what He wants you to do, God will never hide the truth from you. You can also ask God to bring the right people that will offer you the right counsel to come your way.  #Myss Lafunky’s perspective#.  Proverbs 15:22 states that, without counsel, purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors, they are established.


According to, the authors of the blog stated that, we need mentors to avoid tormentors in life. Submission to a higher spiritual authority is the pathway to accountability.

We also need to move away from thinking that, mentoring is an attempt for an individual to poke into one's business rather mentoring helps one to safeguard one's life through right advice, with the aim of avoiding disasters. Have someone that would guide you and someone that you can be accountable to.

There are examples of people in the Bible that were mentored and counselled:

Paul mentored Timothy
Elijah mentored Elisha
Moses mentored Joshua
Jesus mentored the twelves disciples

Get counsel from the right counsellors. 

-   Oluwatosin Olatoye
-   Myss Lafunky

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Sunday 16 June 2013

On A Mission For God. THIS MEANS WAR!!!

Blessed be the Lord, my rock, who trains my hands for war, and my fingers for battle (Psalm 144:1).

Join me in suffering like a good Soldier of Christ Jesus (2 Timothy 2:3).

Who are soldiers? Soldiers are trained to fight for their countries, they usually spend many months, days, years away from their home.  Soldiers are highly trained and well equipped to fight, with the aim to win.  

Soldiers have special love for their countries, this is displayed by their dedication, courage and bravery to fight.

Soldiers are usually loyal to their individual country and to their organisations. Soldiers are instructed to obey their rules and orders.

Do you know that, every Christian that has accepted to follow Jesus as his or her Lord and Saviour, and any Christian that has accepted to follow God's instructions automatically becomes a Soldier of Christ?

What does it mean to be Soldiers of Christ?

Linking it to 2 Timothy 2:3-4, Soldiers of Christ are children of Jesus Christ, those who have accepted Jesus Christ into their hearts.  Those who follow God's instructions, however they are not forced to obey the instructions in comparison to soldiers that are fighting for their countries.  While soldiers of Christ are not forced to obey God's rules, they must be ready to face the consequences of their actions (positive or negative).

Being a soldier of Christ is not full of bed of roses at all times and neither was it mentioned that it would be full of roses. The Bible states in 2 Timothy 2:3-4 that, Soldiers of Christ must endure hardship. This suggests that, as soldiers of Christ, we would suffer, however those who continue to please the Lord and are guided by Him would sail through the hardship.

                                 Are you a Soldier of Christ?

Have I  made a commitment to be a good soldier of Christ? Satan has been defeated by Christ, he knows he has been defeated. Are you defeating him in your daily life?

During hardness, would I still work as a true Soldier and use the right equipment to defeat Satan? 

During hardship, would I be a true Soldier of Christ and would I strengthen my faith so that I can be victorious?

It's not going to be an easy fight or race, there will be wounds, illnesses, mixed emotions, falls, trials, temptations, sufferings etc. 

May the Lord help me to use the armour of God (Ephesians 6:10-18) to win the victory. As a soldier of Christ, I must have the right training, right attitudes, and be in the right environment to win the battle.
The Lord has overcome the world, God said we should be of good cheer (John 16:33).  It is now up-to me to win the victory on earth. Devil must not win this battle.  I must be victorious and keep the faith (1 John 5:4- Because everyone who has been born from God has won the victory over the world. Our faith is what wins the victory over the world). 

I must not  be a slave to Satan in my conduct, speech, actions and in everything that I do.  

I must read the Word of God every day.
I must defend the Word of God every day.
I must support the Word of God every day.
 I must put into practice God's instructions as written in the Bible.
I must be committed at all times to God regardless of challenges that I may encounter.
I must remember that, FAITH, PRAYER and the WORD of God are my weapons.
I must follow what the Holy Spirit tells me.
I must not quit.
Finally, I must be reliable, dependable, capable and faithful.

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- Myss Lafunky

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Wednesday 12 June 2013

Wisdom Tips For Your Marriage and For those that are Courting..

   So, there are things that have no scriptural backings yet they are wisdom tips.  So, what are wisdom tips? According to my definition, wisdom tips are things that you take into consideration before taking an action. 

Below are the wisdom tips for people that are married.

1)    Make God the center of your marriage. Pray together, pray for each other and pray for yourself. Pray at least 5 minutes a day for your spouse.

2)    It is not advisable for you to have a friend of the opposite sex as your best friend.

3)    It is not advisable for you to undertake an action that you will be scared of your spouse finding out.

4)    It is advisable for you to have similar friends with your husband/wife.

5)    It is advisable for you to learn to apologise, don’t just leave it to your wife to apologise. It is both of your roles.

6)    The needs of the family come before your expensive outfits.

7)    Learn how to enjoy each other’s company and how to relax.

8)    Do not be afraid to communicate how you feel to your wife or husband. Be courageous.

9)    Learn to agree to disagree.

10)  It is within your role to make your marriage a PARADISE or HELL. The choice is yours.

11)  Make your marriage fresh.

Below are wisdom tips for people that are courting

1)    It is advisable for you to have a clear vision for your courtship.

2)    It is not advisable for you to go on holiday with your girlfriend/boyfriend alone.

3)    It is not advisable for you to sleepover with your boyfriend/girl friend (Call me old school, from experience it is dangerous).

4)    It is not advisable to engage in sexual activities with your girlfriend or boyfriend.

5)    You want to maintain your virginity and remain pure; it is advisable that you avoid anal, oral, any other types of sex, not just sexual intercourse.

6)    It is essential for you to have self-control.

7)    Reason, don’t argue.

8)    Understand it from your partner’s points of view.

9)    It is advisable for you to remember that you are not one yet; therefore your role must not involve the role of a husband and wife.

10)  It is advisable not to be secretive.  Have someone that will tell you the truth in line with God’s Word.

11)  Never stop preparing for marriage throughout your courtship.

12)  Pray for your beloved 5 minutes every day, pray together and pray for yourselves.

13)  Courtship can be successful when two people realise they are meant for each other and they marry, and it can also be successful when two people have thoroughly examined each other and they make the decision not to go ahead so that they won’t have a broken marriage.

- Myss Lafunky

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Prayer For Your Family and For Your Marriage..

The scripture says that, you shall decree a thing and it shall be established (Job 22:28).  Decree the prayer below into your household.

Dear God,

Thank you Jesus for my family, I appreciate you Lord for my family. I glorify your name for my family. I pray that:

My children will be for signs and wonders (Isaiah 8:18).  

I will be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28).

My family shall be built on godly values and godly principles.

My children will be taught of the Lord.

My marriage shall experience peace.

My children will not give me sleepless nights in Jesus’ name.

The Lord will reveal what He wants us to do as a family, for our children, for myself, for my husband, for my wife, etc.

My husband (wife) and I will not abuse the destiny of our children and of each other in Jesus’ name.

We will not abuse the purpose for our marriage.

Where there is no vision, people perish (Proverbs 29:18). Help us to devise family vision in line with your plans for our lives.

Help me to love my husband (wife) unconditionally.

Help us to be creative in the area of being romantic.

We pray that you will mature us as a couple.

- Myss Lafunky

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Thursday 6 June 2013

Spiritual maturity Versus Spiritual immaturity

So, how do you distinguish a Christian that is mature and a Christian that is not mature?  Some people believe that, mature Christians pray longer and they are eloquent in their prayer, while some believe  that, mature Christians are always present at every church programmes. Some argue that, immature Christians are always late to church, seldom present in church events, their prayer tends to last for about 5 minutes.

Below post stemmed from messages that I have listened to/read by Pastor Sam Adeyemi and Pastor Enoch Adeboye.

                        Spiritual maturity Versus Spiritual Immaturity

Mature Christians teach others   WHILE immature Christians are currently just being taught.

Mature Christians can distinguish between sound and unsound doctrine WHILE immature Christians are not able to distinguish between sound and unsound doctrine.

Mature Christians faith are active WHILE immature Christians have constant doubt and fear.

Mature Christians have the ability to feast on the deeper things of God WHILE immature Christians are struggling with the basics.

Mature Christians regularly evaluate EVERY area of their lives using the word of God that they read regularly WHILE immature Christians evaluate their lives using the Word of God but based on messages that they have heard only not read, they are not aware whether the Word is true or false.

Mature Christians seldom get angry and they love others WHILE immature Christians keep malice and they gossip regularly.

Mature Christians must be able to manage his or her family very well.

Being a Christian is a journey and a process.

How are you ensuring that you mature in your faith? Are you making the right choices?

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- Myss Lafunky

Dealing With “Thus Saith The Lord” Prophecy.

The below post is from one of the blog that I follow: 

 For all my fellow singles that are in church, you know exactly what I’m talking about.  
“Jesus said that you are going to be my wife/husband”
“The Lord told me you are going to be married on such date to such individual”
These prophesies can alter your life forever. For some individuals, instead of seeking the Lord as to how to proceed they just took the word as is on their terms, trying to live up to it.  Then they find that nothing is happening and then a whole bunch of other issues come along. 
“Did I do something wrong?” “Am I out of God’s will?” “Does this mean that I’ve missed the marriage boat?”
If you are currently asking yourself these questions or others similar to these, please take the following into consideration before casting doom on yourself. 
1. Firstly, whenever you get a prophesy it is not something that God wants to keep a secret from you. It is to comfort, encourage, rebuke, edify and such the like. If when you got a word it was not confirmed in your Spirit you can Ask the Lord for confirmation and or clarification. An angel of the Lord came to Gideon, yet he still asked God for a sign (Judges 6). There are other times that you will get a word and know that its from God because it was already lingering in your spirit or because it spoke to issues that are in your past and or present situation. Remember when the prophet went to David regarding Uriah’s wife? When he said what God told him to say, David could confirm it within Himself thats why he pleaded with the Lord for the life of the child (2sam.12:7-16).
2. Secondly, what is the order to the promise? What is it that you must do?   Ask the Lord how you should proceed. Remember how Abraham and Sarah tried fulfilling God’s promise to them on their terms? Rationalizing what God said instead of getting their instructions from God. Don’t ever do that for there is a price to pay. Moses was not only told he would deliver the people but he was given instructions as to how. Its the same thing with Gideon. God is not the author of confusion. If the word is real and of Him, He will give you instructions. 
3. Thirdly, who is the prophet? Has he/she been proven true in the past? How do they benefit from what is being proclaimed to you? Is the prophet living for God? Remember by their fruits you shall know them. The prophet should never be in contradiction to the word of God.  
So if you got a prophesy regarding your spouse to be, please make sure that you seek the Lord and resolve it in yourself. Because you don’t want to be taken advantage of. In addition, if the prophesy is of God and you don’t believe it, unfaithfulness can also cause you delays. Never stop seeking the Lord :).

My's now my MESSAGE

About five years ago--- I was given a prophesy about someone I would marry-- we met in the most remarkable way-- I was blown away. We both were of the faith and so I thought we both believed in waiting for marriage before we engaged in sex.I later found out that he was not interested in waiting and after a while all our conversations were centered around that. It was very uncomfortable. Here I was in love with this man (supposedly a preacher, prophet and pastor) who was of the view that since we are gonna get married, nothing is wrong if we do it. Things got so nasty that he started calling me a religious fanatic and childish. I started getting dreams of him being with other women and I also got a vision of him secretly marry someone else. I didnt want to believe them. I never struggled with self esteem but this guy destroy my strength. I started questioning my very belief and felt like it was my fault things were falling apart. His ministry started growing and he was now travelling-- then he told me its not working out. Needless to say I was devastated! 

But today I give GOD the glory! For His protection in my weakness moments. God used that situation and taught me many lessons that has really helped me to recognize the voice of the LOrd. All of this made me pray more. Made me read my bible more and little by little my strength came back. I later found out that he was indeed fooling around with many women. I was devastated but it would have felt worst if I had given myself to him. I was grateful for that! HE married someone esle secretly--- he lied about it when I asked him about it- but I confirmed it to be true. BEcause of all the infidelity I can only imagine the horror of that woman. I pray for her strength and that he really changes. No woman should have to suffer through that. I really felt like him leaving me was a blessing.

But I am mostly grateful for the fact that I could forgive him. An I told him the same. He contacted me in last year-- terminally ill. With no funds. and I gave him assistance. He had the nerve of trying to get back with me. I declined. I am waiting on God's best. 

Today I can truly say that this has made me better not bitter! My mess became my message. I started writing because of this stress. Today I have 3 books that minister to others. I want to encourage all singles to remain faithful to God- He will give you the right spouse in His time.


I'm too ashamed to tell him...Kindly advise.

Is 15 sex partners 2 many 4 a 22years old?I had always planned 2 remain virgin till I got married.l tried to stick 2 dis plan bt at d age of 22 I lost my virginity& I absolutely loved it.its 4years later now& I have slept with more than 15men. I'm currently in a relationship dat I'm hoping would lead to marriage.D oda day my partner asked me how many men I'd been with b4 him I said 5 I was 2 ashamed.

Kindly advise.

Sunday 2 June 2013


When I read the below article, I thought of these two scriptures:

"The race is not to the swift,
Nor the battle to the strong,
Nor bread to the wise,
Nor riches to men of understanding,
Nor favour to men of skill;
But time and chance happen to them all" (Ecclesiastes 9:11).

“Enter through the narrow gate. The gate is wide and the road is wide that leads to hell, and many people enter through that gate.  But the gate is small and the road is narrow that leads to heaven. Only a few people find that road" (Matthew 7:13).


Every athlete seeks to reach the finished line exerting every effort required. Such is the mentality of the athlete to obtain the medal or trophy.

For the believer or Christian, he runs the race with the mentality of reaching the end which is heaven; however he cannot make a dash for it. His race is comparable to a marathon although there is no baton to hand over to another rather there are truths to be learnt.

Each truth picked in the course of the race is vital to get to the next truth. It is recorded that Enoch walked with God until God took Him directly into heaven. Though Paul describes the journey to heaven as a race it is also a walk with God within which we get to know Him, we seek to meet in heaven.

God desires a relationship with us as well hence our race begins with knowing God as the giver of salvation via Calvary (the place of His death) and the accruing benefits of Calvary. It is identifiable by you that you cannot walk with somebody whom you know not.

The end of this race is not quite visible at the start but as it progresses it starts to come into view but you cannot finish it in a day but you do it all the days of life. 

This race is a life-long one and the further you go the more you know. Many begin and do not finish because they get tired too soon. There is quite a lot to be known of God as we walk with Him.

Beloved, do not get tired of knowing God as you walk with Him. The race is not a dash to the finish line. Death concludes lives journey which is followed by judgement and this determines whether heaven has being attained or hell obtained.

Hell is easy to run to but heaven is not easy to run to for the price for heaven must be paid via obedience to the commands instructions.


-   Oluwatosin Olatoye

About the writer: Tosin is a trained Lawyer. He is single and lives in Warri, Nigeria.  Tosin has a passion for God and everything to do with living right for God.  Since I have known Tosin, every conversation that we have always revolves around building our faith in Christ.  

Thank you so much Tosin.

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Saturday 1 June 2013

Being Drunk...Being Led...

Happy New Month to my readers and followers.  It’s June, it’s half of year 2013 already.  I can’t believe how this year has gone pretty fast; it’s going to be Christmas soon.  Wow! 

Do you have anything to thank God for?  Has God done anything awesome in your life from January- May 2013?  Also, how have you kept God’s commandments from January –May 2013?  God said that, if you love Him, you will keep His commandments (John 14:15).   

I am grateful for God’s amazing love towards me.  Albeit I knew God loves me,  I had  not felt His love like the way I currently feel,  there are astonishing Testimonies and incredible signs  that  I am experiencing that evidently shows God loves towards me.

God has proven Himself to me as the sovereign God.  It pays to undertake uncommon actions for God; I can guarantee you that you will experience uncommon favour after you have undertaken uncommon actions for God.

I sacrificed a lot to obey a certain instruction that God gave me.  When I made the sacrifice, it was extremely painful but I'm immersing in the benefits of acting on His instructions.

I want to encourage you all to listen, and be guided by God.  He has your best interests at heart, He WOULD NEVER mislead you.  Although when He guides and instructs you, He gives you the choice to obey.  I want to encourage you that, it pays to act on God’s instructions even if it appears not to be simple, but once you act upon it,  it becomes easy , and the Lord will be pleased with you, and He will reward you accordingly.

I must also stress that, when God instructs you, it is best to ‘JUST DO IT’ immediately like Nike logo.  This is because people may misguide you, even if they are fellow believers.  Acts 5: 29 states that,  Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather humans”.   You also may start doubting God's Word if you don't act quickly.  Can I suggest that, if you are not sure that it is God that is instructing you, I would advise you to seek counsel from a Christian leader that you believe would guide you in line with the Word of God.  You can also ask God to show you signs that He is the one speaking to you.  I implement this a lot and it works for me greatly. 

It pays to be led by God.  The Bible says in Romans 8:14- For as many are led by the Spirit of God; they are the sons of God.  When you allow God to lead you, you are likely to have a sense of peace and joy in you. 

This week, I've been meditating on the signs that someone that has indulged in high excess of alcohol depicts.  

A drunkard is usually slow in physical reactions, his or her ability to drive, walk, talk and function becomes limited.  Some drunkards even hallucinate, some engage in fights, some become extremely friendly with strangers; some drunkards become very paranoid, some drunkards depict violence, amongst others.  

Are you wondering why I was meditating on signs that drunkards depict?  Basically, I was trying to make comparison in relation to being drunk in the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 5: 18).

Do you know how you can be drunk in the Holy Spirit? What types of signs and symptoms would you depict if you are drunk in the Holy Spirit? 

-Myss Lafunky

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