Thursday 11 April 2013

20 WAYS to show you love somebody (without having sex)

I have been told that there are so many “what not to do within a Christian courtship” and some people have stated that they do not actually know what they are to do in a Christian courtship without engaging in THKS.
There are things to do without having sex.  Waiting can be fun... Here are some ideas on how you can let your special guy/lady know that you love them.

This list is not exhaustive, feel free to add to the list or share your ideas

1)      Make sure the other person feels important and respected.

2)      Be there when they need a friend.

3)      Tell the other person you love them.   Practice love by being: (Kind, patient, not to be jealous of each other, not to get upset easily,  not to keep record of wrongs, not being selfish, trust each other).

4)      Spend time together/Go  for a meal/Go shopping/Share your interests and participate in both of your interests

5)      Talk on the telephone, use modern technology to communicate.

6)      Read a book and discuss it

7)      Meet each other’s friends

8)      Laugh at something funny together/Share jokes/Watch movies

9)      Be faithful

10)   Go sightseeing/visit places together

11)   Meet each other’s family

12)   Tell the person that you care

13)   Find out what makes each other happy

14)   Find out what makes the other sad

15)   Have your picture taken together

16)   Go to a concert

17)   Give compliments

18)   Listen to each other’s worries and help each other

19)   Exchange gifts

20)   Be best friends

-Myss Lafunky

This post can be discussed with teenagers, people that do not want to have sex before marriage, amongst others.

Feel free to add to the list or share your ideas

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  1. I like this. No 11 is my favourite - creates a sense of responsibility. However, how often would u encourage these activities to be done. I feel it would be better if time spent alone together is limited and activities during those times are very carefully chosen. You hardly see movies these days that do not have sexual acts in them no matter the genre. Seeing those alone could create tension. While I encourage these activities being done, i think it best done with other friends or maybe even family members in attendance.
    I like no. 6: Purpose driven life is one of such books i'd recommend.
    Also, you might want to include 'praying together' - could be done over the phone.

    1. Thank you Anonymous.

      I agree that time spent alone together should be limited. However, one can spend time alone in the public. From experience, sexual tension hardly happen when one is in public places, it is usually when one is alone in an enclosed place.

      I like No 6 too.

      I agree that Prayer should be included.

      From experience, praying together and sharing the Word of God (Bible) together connect you as a couple. A bond of love develops between the couple that is eternal. That's because you always grow to love the people for whom you pray—even those you don't know. You develop God's heart of love for them.

      I would encourage praying and sharing the Word together should be done on a regular basis.

      Discussions should be held in terms of whether the sharing of the Word will be through daily devotional, studying Characters in the bible, discussions as to where the studying/prayer will take place (over the phone, via Skype, via Viber, etc).

      There is Power in praying together. The bible says "'If two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven'" (Matt. 18:19).

      However, we must not neglect our own personal prayer times with God.

  2. Agreed...(Bernardo a.k.a. anonymous above)

    1. Bernado, you are funny. On a previous post, you wrote annoymous as well, and later on, you declared yourself as Bernardo.

  3. Mike Myers gave 10 rules for any guy that wants to date her daughter, he called the rules 10 SIMPLE rules:

    Rule One:
    If you pull into my driveway and honk you’d better be delivering a package, because you’re sure not picking anything up.

    Rule Two:

    You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter’s body, I will remove them.

    Rule Three:

    I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don’t take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots.

    Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose this compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, In order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.

    Rule Four:

    I’m sure you’ve been told that in today’s world, sex without utilizing a “barrier method” of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate: when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.

    Rule Five:

    In order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day.

    Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is “early”

    Rule Six:

    I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.

    Rule Seven:

    As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process that can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don’t you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?

    Rule Eight:

    The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter:

    - Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool.

    - Places where there are no parents, policemen, or nuns within eyesight.

    - Places where there is darkness.

    - Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka zipped up to her throat.

    - Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which feature chainsaws are okay.

    - Old folks homes are better.

    Rule Nine:

    Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a potbellied, balding, middle-aged, dimwitted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help you God. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.

    Rule Ten:

    Be afraid. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy outside of Hanoi.