Wednesday 8 April 2015

Hurting People Hurt Others| 5 Tips on Human Relations

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Human Relations
The way I relate with people has been influenced by the application of the Bible, guidance of the Holy Spirit, counsel from Godly friends, the book of Proverbs and principles from John Maxwell's book.

I would like to share some of the principles that I practise. John Maxwell's write-up provides a good summary to my daily life principles. Please, read the below write-up from John Maxwell:

"If you’ve spent any time on this earth, you know that life contains conflict. And there are times in the life of every leader when he or she needs to fight. But if you fight all the time, you can wear yourself out. That’s why it’s important to pick your battles.

To gain a better perspective on when to fight back and when to “let it go,” practice the following disciplines:

1. Spend time with people who are different from you. This helps you appreciate and understand how others think and work. You will be less inclined to judge or battle them.

2. In matters of personal preference or taste, give in. Keep the main thing the main thing. If you don’t save your energy for what really matters, you’ll wear yourself out and wear out your welcome with others.

3. Don’t take things too personally. In general, hurting people hurt people. And they’re also easily hurt by others. Keep that in mind when you’re on the receiving end of someone’s anger.

4. Practice the 101% Principle. Whenever possible in a difficult situation, find the 1% that you do agree on and give it 100% of your effort.

5. Be a servant leader. If your mindset is to serve rather than be served, you will be less likely to encounter resistance.

The best team doesn’t always win;
it’s usually the team that gets along best."

No 3 is my favourite. What's your favourite?

- Myss Lafunky


  1. Number 2 & 5.Good article.

  2. For me, its 1 & 2.

    I would also like to add that in my opinion hurt people should be the most forgiving of others because they have felt varying degrees of pain which they shouldn't wish on anyone (this would work in an ideal world of black & white but in our world, there are a lot of grey areas).

    Personally I have come to understand people better after going through challenges. I am more compassionate & less judgemental because I can relate to others brokeness through my previously shattered & now reconstructed lenses.

    1. That's true actually. One would think because one had been hurt in the past, the individual would not wish the same on anyone else.
      From my experience, if the individual did not receive the right support to understand what he/she had experienced in order to be better, the cycle of what led to being hurt may continue and the individual is also likely to be very guarded in their relationship with others, which may lead to hurting others.