Monday 18 November 2013

5 things to consider before correcting people in love (2 of 3)

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From my personal experience, experience of others and from what the Bible says about correcting others, I have tried to be succinct by recommending 5 things that we should consider before we correct people in love.

5 things to consider before correcting people in love:

1.     Examine the intentions of your heart before correcting. 

2.     Ask yourself, why do I want to correct this individual? Is it to show the person that they are wrong or is it to find a way to help the person?

3.     Also, ask yourself, am I also guilty of what I am about to correct this individual? Therefore, carefully consider whether you are the most suitable person to correct the individual.

4.     Am I the right person to correct the individual?

5.     Ask the Holy Spirit on what to do.


- Myss Lafunky

5 comments:

  1. Thanks for this; but I have a question on points 3 and 4. What if I am guilty of the same thing i have observed in the person? And I'm just realizing it.

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    1. Thank you multicreativeme for your question. Kindly read Twale's response to your question below and my response to it.

      Thanks for stopping by. I will check out your blog:)

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  2. Well, if you're also guilty of the thing you've observed, it's a good thing in disguise because it'll help you approach the person you want to correct with humility and empathy for what may have led that person to take that particular wrong course of action. Then you can correct the person and also let the person know that you understand how difficult it may be to change or how he/she sees the action because you've come to realise that you also need to change in that area. Correction should not be done because we feel we are much more superior or better than others but because we love them and are looking out for them

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    1. Thank you Twale. I agree with your point. The way we advice people stem from whether we are going through the situation or we have passed through the situation or we have no experience of the situation. Sometimes, we also may know someone that may have passed through what we are correcting a person. The bottom line is, we are likely to be empathetic and choose our words carefully when we are correcting what we are also guilty of. I also feel that it is good integrity and humility if we actually tell the individual that we are also trying to stop such action.

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