Monday 26 January 2015

Working Towards Being an Ephesians 5 Man

Sequel to the post about readiness to marriage, please click this link for the post. It would appear that the audience for the readiness to marriage post could be linked to single women.

Today, I want to focus on our men. As I was studying my Bible, God told me that, young men and older men should be taught about "The Ephesians 5 Man." If they choose to marry, they must work on being an Ephesians 5 Man, and after marriage, they are to continue to work towards being an Ephesians 5 Man.

Who is an Ephesians 5 Man?

  • A Man that has given his life to Christ
  • A Man that understands what the Lord wants from him
  • A Man that is not thoughtless but think carefully before he makes any decision
  • A Man that has taken his time to understand sexual purity, what it means to be a Man and what God expects of him
  • A Man that works, a Man that can provide for his family
  • A man that has taken his time to understand what God's love is about and how Christ wants him to love his wife and children
  • A Man that spends time with the word of God
  • A Man that has a stable mind, he is not tossed from one view to another
  • A Man that can stand on his own views
  • A Man that strives to live a holy life unto God, and he is quick to examine the way he is living his life
  • A praying Man and a discipline man
  • A Man that takes his time to understand women.
Once you are working towards the above, implementing the scriptures below should be straight forward with the help of the Holy Spirit.

"For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a Man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church" - Ephesians 5:25-29

You can use some of the points that I raised above to pray for your husband, your fiancé, you can also use it as a checklist to assess the men that are trying to ask for your hand in marriage.

Husbands, if you are loving your wife as Christ loved the Church, your wife will likely follow you to the ends of the earth, strive to meet your needs and submit to your headship with joy. Please remember that she is an heir with you of the grace of life (1Peter 3:7). She is an asset to you. It could be argued that too much emphasis on the role of the wife in marriage, with little instruction given to the husband's role is wrong and will lead to abuse.

So here is my question to you men: "Are you an Ephesians 5 Man?" That is your high and holy calling from God to your wife. To those preparing for marriage, pray to God to make you an Ephesians 5 Man, start working towards being an Ephesians 5 Man. 

Have a lovely week ahead.

- Myss Lafunky
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