Thursday, 9 May 2013

E.V.A.L.U.A.T.E...

Hi readers and followers,

How is your week going?  What's the weather like? In England, most of our discussion tends to revolve around the weather.  It's May shower, or shall I call it 'Spring rain'. My area is gloomy and wet.

I was Whatsapped this afternoon, to read UCB Word for today (check out: http://www.ucb.co.uk/word-for-today.html).

Below article can be applied to your relationship with families, friends, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, your beloved, your fiancĂ©e/fiancĂ©, and also within the work place.

How often do you appreciate your spouse?  Are you always moody at your work place or cheerful?  Are you understanding when you are working within a group//team?


A successful marriage is based on two things: ‘finding’ the right person, and ‘becoming’ the right person. And the second thing is harder than the first. 

Just because two people share the same bed and the same name, it doesn’t guarantee harmony.

Here are some practical suggestions based on the word E-V-A-L-U-A-T-E


Enjoy- Do you enjoy the same things? Maybe it’s not a big deal now, but later when your husband is glued to the big match on TV and you want a little conversation, it will be. 
Values- The Bible asks, ‘Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?’ Are you able to agree on major issues such as intimacy, parenting, finances, in-laws, goals, and your relationship with God? You may disagree over many things, but these are make-or-break issues. 
Accessibility. Are you both emotionally accessible, or is he the strong silent type who doesn’t communicate— or understand your need to?
Love. Do you really love each other? Not the Hollywood version but the kind that listens to your spouse’s opinions and concerns, overlooks their faults and failings, values them, and expresses itself through kindness?
Understanding. As surely as God doesn’t make two snowflakes alike, He doesn’t make two people alike. So, can you understand and handle each other’s differences? 
Appreciation. Your partner can’t read your mind, so get into the habit of expressing your appreciation for one another. This speaks volume. I'm not very good at showing appreciation.
Temperament. If you’re naturally upbeat but they’re moody and introverted, you may have an oil-and-water mix. How will you handle this? 
Environment. If you’re from different backgrounds, are you comfortable in the same social and spiritual settings? 
                          If you want a happy relationship/marriage, E-V-A-L-U-A-T-E these things.

Reference: http://www.ucb.co.uk/word-for-today.html

I recently read a prayer on unveiled wife (a blog that I follow). I really like the prayer, it can be prayed within a marriage or while you are courting.  Below is the prayer. Personalise it and be blessed!

Prayer
"Dear Heavenly Father. I lift up my marriage to you right now. Although I love my husband, you made him and I very differently. In addition to your design, we were raised differently. 

We have preferences and opinions that do not always align. In fact, sometimes they cause great tension between us. I pray that these differences will not tear us down. 

Please help my husband and I to be compassionate and humble towards each other. May we respect our differences and still be on the same page! Help us learn how to thrive in our marriage despite these differences in Jesus name AMEN!


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