Tuesday, 17 July 2018

Ride or Die?

Ever watched The Fast and the Furious? It is one of the greatest movie franchises of all times, one theme that runs through them all is family and commitment. The relationship between Dominic Toretto and Letty is the stuff of fantasies; the length they went through for each other across countries and continents. Imagine having someone like that supporting you, someone that you know that no matter what happens, they’ll always be there for you. As human beings, we want to have such a person on our side.

Hence the desire for relationships, for family, for community. People that will always have your back and no matter what comes our way, they will always be there for you. In spite of this desire, due to our human nature, commitments are easier said than done. Commitments are broken when our flaws come to the surface and more often than not, those flaws come to the surface when we’ve either gotten used to the person we’re with or the environment we find ourselves in.

God's word encourages us not to feel dismayed as there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24b). God's word also says that He as a God will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).  In actual fact, God is the only friend that you can trust without a shadow of a doubt that even when the very worst of our flaws show themselves, God will always be there; loving you, never forsaking you, committed to you always and forever; even before we loved Him, He loved us (Romans. 5:8). 

He didn’t just use words to tell us that He loved us but He backed it up with actions by giving his only precious son to die for you and I.  Therefore, if you ever want a ride or die person, look to God; He is the only person that you can truly count on to ride or die with you, in fact, He already died for you. To use the phrase from The Originals: always and forever. That’s the pledge God said when describing His commitment to us. To love us always and forever. Let us all aim to this kind of commitment, this kind of love as described in 1 Corinthians. 13:4-8

As we go into this new week, the charge is simple, be that friend that someone desperately needs.  If you are unable to be that friend, pray to God to send special friends to people that you are unable to be there for.  Stay blessed and have a great week ahead. 

P.S. The World Cup was awesome 😊


Monday, 9 July 2018

Lashing Out

Are you stupid?! What sort of nonsense is this? You’re useless! Ever heard these words? As a child growing up, you may have either grown up in a home where these reactions were the first, second and third reaction from your parents; the shoot first, ask questions later policy. If you were fortunate not to grow up in such  an environment, you may know someone that did.  Even though it’s a common occurrence, lashing out is a terrible trait.  Why? Because by the time you’re done, you regret what you did or said and would have damaged the person you did or said it to. 

I recently had to sit down and re-evaluate  life and I found out that whenever I lashed out, it always hurt those closest to me and even when things got better, the damage from those lashings still existed even though I had forgotten about them (like I always say, it is the person that gets hit that always remembers the accident). It was then it hit me, lashing out can cause you to lose relationships and even opportunities.

James 3:6 refers to the tongue as a little flame and if you track back to vs. 5 of James 3, it talks about how a great forest is kindled by a small fire. That’s exactly what the tongue does when we lash out. It burns down all the great plans that you’ve built and no fire service can quench the fire.
While it may be hard to do, the Bible has a very simple advice, God said:

“Careful words make for a careful life; careless talk may ruin everything.” Proverbs 13:3 MSG

Be careful with your words. No matter how provoked you are, be careful with your words because once they come out, they can’t be taken back in (James 3:9-12). 

Picture your teeth and your lips as the gate that guards your tongue. You never open your gate down due to security reasons. Don’t leave the gate of your tongue open.

As you go into this week, the charge is simple, be careful with the words you speak and go back to anyone you’ve ever lashed out, seek for their forgiveness and make a commitment to treat them better (if you’re fortunate to still have that opportunity).

Before you speak, consult your security guard (your mind) on whether or not the gate (your teeth and lips) need to be opened. I’ve had to lose so much to learn my lesson, trust me I’ve learnt it. Don’t wait till you lose as much as I’ve lost before you learn it.

P.SWords are important, treat them as gold. Pass it through the fire to purify it and weigh it carefully before you let it out. 

P.P.S: Study James 3:1-12

Have a lovely week. See you next Monday.

- Sage

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Monday, 2 July 2018

Last Night I Died

Last night I died. My heart broke and yet it was still beating. My pride was shattered yet I tried to stand tall. I tried to stand tall as I watched my home and comfort zone reject me but inside I was on the floor crying my eyes out.  My home was destroyed yet I sat in it trying to sleep, I couldn’t imagine that I would once again feel a part of me die but I have died before, yes I know, but it hurts most when you finally know what it feels like to be alive. 
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It hurts even more when you realise you were the cause and you could have done better.  It hurts so much when you see the door shut on you. I knelt down, I pleaded, I cried but it changed nothing and my only option was to die. So I went back to the home that was no longer a home because the warmth was gone. The light was out and there was nothing but darkness and a hollow sound as I tried to talk over the phone. 

A friend said, fill your time with activities, I turned to DSTV to no avail. I turned to the internet, to no avail. Then a voice whispered, search for porn, it’ll help you calm your nerves and take your mind off it. Then I remembered that porn only provided a temporary solution and I couldn’t handle the guilt that would come with engaging in it. Mix in depression and the pot of stew would be complete. So I resisted and turned back to DSTV. Fortunately I found Tom & Jerry but it wasn’t as funny as the ones I watched growing up, so I zoned out.
Then I remembered oh wait, you need to back up your phone, so I did, then I remembered how Eminem always spoke to the pain in my heart growing up as a teenager in a broken home, wondering why I saw my mum cry at a young age, wondering why several times before my teenage years, I took a knife and pointed it at my tummy, seeking for the strength to just plunge it into my soft belly and give up on life. It dawned on me, get a knife, end it all. Life isn’t worth living when everything around you is failing. 

So I stood up, got a knife, came back to the living room while I played with the pointy edge seeking the strength to do what I couldn’t do at the age of 8. Alas I still didn’t have the strength, despite over two decades of heartbreak, so I got up, returned the knife to the kitchen and remembered I had a post to write. Yes I wrote this while listening to Eminem’s ‘when I’m gone’.

But guess what?

I want to live. I want to love and be loved. I want to prove that I can be a better man than my father. I want to prove that I can have a happy and loving home than the one I grew up in. I want to prove that suicide isn’t an option when there’s so much to live for. So I’ll live, if but for a day, I’ll live.

If but for a moment, I’ll live. I’ll live just to see the sun rise and to say the one I love: good morning baby, even though she may not reply. I’ll live just so I can message my mother to say hi and call her motherly. I’ll live just so I can see the smile on the faces of my colleagues when I walk in and debate politics. I want to live, one day at a time.
Tupac said sometimes it’s hard to wake up in the morning when your mind is full of demons, got you heartbroken. Yes I played it too but still I want to live. Finally! A friend replied, another reason to live. Then Eminem said ‘there will never be another me and no matter what they do, there’ll never be another you’. As I heard it, I knew I had to live. Why? There is just one me and that one me has a purpose on earth (Jeremiah. 1:5---God said that "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations".

So while I wish I could die a man, with my love and pride intact, I choose to live. Broken but alive. Sad but alive. Alive with the hope that one day, all will be well. One day, I will be happy. One day, I will look back at this moment and say thank God I returned the knife to the kitchen.

I don’t know if I’ll ever share this post for publishing but if I do, know that I’m alive! With life comes another chance. If you’re going through this, know that you’re not the only one. We are plenty in it. The charge for this week is a very simple one, choose life (I’m crying in my heart as I type this, so trust me, I’m typing from experience)
With life comes opportunities. With life comes a new day in the sun created by God. Suicide is not an option. In the words of Logic, I finally wanna be alive!! Joshua 1:9, 1 Peter 5:8-9.

Now I can call this post, I wanna be alive!
Inspired by life and the song titled 1-800-273-8255 by Logic.

- Sage 
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Monday, 25 June 2018

Musa Keeps Super Eagles' World Cup dreams alive: Who is Keeping Your Hope Alive?

Hi everyone, it’s been a long time, like 4 months! We sincerely apologise for the break. We are back! Please, watch out for our blog post every Monday.
A lot has happened in that time, can’t begin to count but most importantly, the World Cup is here and with it a chance to see the Super Eagles in action. For the avid football lover, I’m sure you feel the excitement. Oh what a feeling when Ahmed Musa scored that first goal. 

Suddenly the entire team felt re-invigorated, the entire country began to hope silently that maybe, just maybe, the Super Eagles would claim their first 3-points at the 2018 World Cup. Suddenly a whole country began to believe, the doubters silenced, the believers energised at the possibility of a victory that eluded a much better team than ours.
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint (Is. 40:31, KJV).
As children of God, we have the unenviable task to learn to wait, not just to wait but to wait patiently, hoping for the best, believing that sooner than later, our breakthrough shall arrive; that sooner than later, we shall overcome; that sooner than later, the light at the end of the tunnel will overcome the darkness. Despite the difficulty of this, the bible assures us that if we wait on the Lord all the things listed in the verse shall happen. That is the essence of the analogy at the beginning of this text. Just as we waited on that first goal, we should wait on the Lord, never losing hope because our father in heaven has assured us that our strength shall be renewed!
Go into this week waiting on God, never losing hope, believing and trusting in the Lord God Almighty. Remember, while you're waiting on God, God is working! His plans for you are the best! His plans for you are better than your own plans for yourself.

Let's Talk...

-What keeps you going when you are waiting on the Lord? Any tips to share with our Lafunkites' readers and followers?

Have a great week ahead. Stay blessed.  We look forward to reading from you. See you next week Monday for another post from Mysses' Lafunky's blogspot.

- Sage

Monday, 19 March 2018

Becoming like Jesus Christ In Character

Hello Readers & Followers,

How was your weekend? Hope you had a lovely weekend and hope it wasn't too tiring? Last week was quite interesting for me actually as my character in Christ was tested immensely due to how someone related with me. 

As you read this excerpt of a sermon by my husband, I'd like you to take time to reflect on your character and honestly ask yourself, is it really like Christ's character? If it is not, this is an opportunity to become like Jesus Christ in character and also to ask the Holy Spirit to help you. 

It is to be noted that my husband and I are still becoming like Jesus Christ in character. We do not want you to think that we are perfect but we are on a journey to perfection. We know that there had been times that we fell short and there had also been times that we knew that God was pleased with our characters. We would not want to dwell on past achievements but rather, we want to focus on where we are now and where God is taking us.

Here goes this week's post...

Becoming Like Jesus Christ In Character

When you reflect something, you are exhibiting its likeness. You are displaying its characteristics. Like a mirror, the Bible tells us that we should reflect the character and likeness of Jesus Christ. We should have the same attitude as Jesus Christ. See Philippians 2:5-8

4 major qualities that Jesus possessed that we ought to copy and practice are:

1) Prayer: Matthew 26:36-41 Jesus prayed in Gethsemane and told the disciples to watch and pray so they will not enter into temptation. Not just any kind of prayer, there was emphasis on aligning our prayers in line with God's purpose and plan for us. Therefore, it is good to pray for the will of God. Matthew 23:14. Christ could have prayed that the cup of crucifixion be taken away from Him, but He didn't. He could have prayed that the day of crucifixion be moved further but He didn't instead He prayed for God's will to be done.

The book of John chapter 17 tells us about staying connected to the source of our power. Jesus prayed as many times as He could; Jesus never wanted to be separated from His father so He prayed at all times to maintain that channel of communication. Not just willing to pray but putting aside all busy schedules and praying.

2) Humility: The bible says that Jesus Christ humbled Himself and became obedient even to the point of death. Sometimes, when we pray and ask God to help us develop the spirit of patience that's when people come specially to provoke you just to test how much that patience is worth to you. Our human nature does not want us to be humble. Jesus washed the disciples feet with love thereby teaching us humility to even those we have authority over. 

In Mathew 17:24-28, Jesus humbled Himself to the authority that was in Government and He did not wield His power around aimlessly just to prove that He was the son of God. Instead He commanded Peter to go fishing and for him to bring the money he finds in the mouth of the fish to pay tax. 

The book of Romans 13:1-2 reminds us that all leaders and people in the authorities that exists are placed by God for a purpose, therefore we should obey them by doing our bit.

3) The Way Jesus Spoke: The bible describes the tongue as a powerful tool though small but directs life. See the book of James 3:5, Proverbs 18:21. Therefore Jesus Christ spoke positive words to the people. Mathew 9:23-26 made us to understand that when Jesus Christ said the girl is not dead but asleep the people ridiculed Jesus but this did not deter him from waking the girl up. 

"Always give thoughts to your words before they are spoken because your word is life and once spoken, it is difficult to reverse" - Mysses Lafunky's husband.

4) Forgiveness: Mathew 18:21-22 states that Jesus Christ commands us to forgive our neighbours up to 70 x 7. Forgiveness is not for the other person alone because if we don't forgive then we are also at the risk of not being forgiven.

Let's Talk...

  • What character of Jesus Christ do you already exhibit? (keep it up! :))
  • Do you have any recent experience that you did not reflect the characters of Jesus Christ? A) What happened? B) How did you handle it? C) And how would you handle, if a similar incident was to occur in the future? 

Prayer for Today

Merciful Lord, help me to become more like You. May I live a life that is more like You always. Lord Jesus, even when my character is being tested, help me to react like the way you will react in Jesus name. 
Merciful Lord, please forgive me for different ways that I had displayed characters (both in the open and secret) that did not reflect who you are.

Have a lovely week! Remember to interact with us by answering our "Let's Talk" questions.

Monday, 12 March 2018

Armoured to Stand

New week alert! New post alert! Always so excited when it’s time to write a new post, if only I could be writing new posts daily 😢. Oh well, wishes and Lamborghinis. Are you a fan of war movies? Especially those ones that depict battle scenes from the period of the Roman or Greek empires? When the warriors get ready for battle, you see them getting their armours ready. What constitutes their armour?

You have the shield, the breastplate (because mans ain’t tryna be sliced pork chop), the helmet (because mans can’t be walking around with a headless body), the belt, the sandals and of course the sword or hammer (depending on the warrior’s preference). Before battle, you see their armours shining and gleaming under the sun but by the end of the battle, it’s bloodied. But therein lies the difference between us and these warriors!

Therefore put on the full armour of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. (Eph. 6:13, NIV)

Wait, what?! I am not understanding this! God, are you trying to tell me that after going through my Avengers assemble routine of suiting up to face Killmonger, I should just stand? Wow… amaziiiiing. Well, therein lies the difference, we are not expected to fight the battle (II Chr. 20:17). Why? For we wrestle not against flesh and blood (Eph. 6:12) and of course, there is no way you can physically fight what isn’t physical. Have you ever tried fighting a temptation with boxing or wrestling? That would be weird and impossible 😂.

With that in mind, when God gave us the charge to suit up and stand, it was because He knew that there was no way we could fight the spiritual forces of this world with earthly armour or earthly battle strategies. You may say, but not all things we face in life are spiritual and I would say, all things are spiritual (I Cor. 2:15). Every situation you face in life, every battle, has a spiritual force behind it and that is why in Eph. 6, the bible takes the time to explain to us what we truly contend with when we see things happening to us in the physical and thereafter, tells us what to do about those situations (wear the armour of God, so we can stand our ground).

As we go into this week, the charge is for us to wear the armour of God and stand. What is the armour of God? Eph. 6:14-17 gives us the details on what it consists, check it out.

Let's talk

- Tell us, what situations in life have you faced and were unable to stand?
- Why were you unable to stand?

Trace your way back to God and suit up in His armour and ask for strength to stand when the evil day comes.


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Monday, 5 March 2018

Hagar Moment

Happy new month guys, welcome to the third month of the new year. I’m jamming to this great song recommended by Myss Lafunky called Your Great Name by Todd Dulaney. Nothing like the name of Jesus, right? Listen to it and be blessed. I’m sure you would be wondering what a Hagar moment is, be patient, we will get there. It was inspired by an awesome podcast by a spiritual father of mine, Bishop T.D Jakes and it’s called "Are you all in?" Please listen to it and I can assure you that you would be blessed just as I was by the podcast.

"Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian slave named Hagar; so she said to Abram, 'The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.' Abram agreed to what Sarai said. So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian slave Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife." (Gen. 16:1-2 NIV).

First of, apologies to Hagar and anyone named Hagar for using your name to describe a situation that is not necessarily positive. Verse 2 of Gen. 16 completely captures exactly what a Hagar moment is; now for some context, flip back to Gen. 15 with specific focus on Gen. 15:5.

Like Daddy Jakes said and I’m paraphrasing here, it’s basically a moment in life when you decide to help God fulfil His promise to you lol. Imagine the almighty God needing your help to complete what He started. But that is exactly what we do when we are holding on to God and we decide to create a plan B like Sarai did. In Gen.15:5, God gave them the promise and bada bing bada boom, 22 verses later, Sarai is like naaa this ain’t gonna work, I gotta help God out. Now I’m not saying we shouldn’t plan or strategize but I’m saying when waiting on God, you need to trust that He is able to finish that which He started. 

As human beings, we all have Hagar moments at different points in time but what is wrong is, when we have the Hagar moment and follow through on whatever decisions that arise from those moments. Remember that verse that says without faith it is impossible to please God? Yeah, Heb. 11:6. When we have Hagar moments and follow through, we are basically saying we don’t have faith in God’s finishing ability and in doing so, we displease Him.
The example of Abraham and Sarah is one of the most common examples that happens in our society today. I myself have had quite a few Hagar moments, sometimes I’ve had the strength to resist those moments and other times, I found myself "helping God" by following through with action. There are a lot of risks associated with Hagar moments and from experience (even when we are covered by the grace and mercy of God) we end up having to live with the consequences and pains of the Hagar moment. 

I’ve been guilty of succumbing to Hagar moments but after listening to the podcast, I made up my mind to start taking concrete steps to close out every Hagar moment in my life and by His grace, I will be able to close out and resist any Hagar moment in my life.

As we go into this new week and month, the charge is for you to sit down and think of anytime you tried to help God and ask Him for His forgiveness and strength to close every door that was opened due to Hagar moments and to walk away whenever you’re faced with a Hagar moment again. Temptation isn’t a sin but falling into temptation is a sin!

Let’s Talk

  1. What Hagar moments have you experienced?
  2. What are the steps you need to take to fix those moments?
Have a lovely week! See you on Monday for another faith based post.