tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post3666088784350051397..comments2024-03-16T07:53:29.941+00:00Comments on Mysses Lafunky's Faith Blog: Would You Give Forgiveness a Chance?Mysses Lafunkyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07860573756184786018noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-709643540671549122015-06-02T19:42:55.915+01:002015-06-02T19:42:55.915+01:00I agree. That's the cost of Christianity. The ...I agree. That's the cost of Christianity. The daily price that we have to pay.<br /><br />Christianity doesn't make sense logically, no wonder God said we should not be carnal in our ways but rather we should walk in the Holy Spirit.<br />May God help us to conform to His Word at all times.<br /><br /><br />Mysses Lafunkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07860573756184786018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-7627105767892790202015-06-02T19:41:52.437+01:002015-06-02T19:41:52.437+01:00Forgiveness is never easy. It's painful and th...Forgiveness is never easy. It's painful and that's why it's impossible to be done in the flesh. It takes the Spirit of God to touch our hearts. <br /><br />One of the ways to learn to forgive is to picture how you were before God miraculously saved you and what you would have become if not for His mercy.<br /><br />I read about a Pastor who God sent to his village to preach to those that killed his parents. He said "my parents died as sinners and may likely be in hell, so I should go preach to their killers so they would repent and make heaven "<br /><br />Logically, it doesn't make sense. But that's why we are like Christ. That's why we must have the same mind that is in Christ and was in Stephen and the other disciples.<br /><br />That's the cost of Christianity. That's the price we must pay on account of our faith. That's among the things that makes Christianity not to be a walk in the park but a narrow path which we must walk through. <br /><br />This is what dying daily means.<br /><br />Thanks Myss Lafunky once again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-9440005265405850762015-06-02T19:41:19.379+01:002015-06-02T19:41:19.379+01:00I recently ran into a teacher who sexually assault...I recently ran into a teacher who sexually assaulted me at 14. I still remember the terror I felt. And he was all smiles, asking after my well-being and wanted to shake my hand. It was in a bank hall and I wanted to humiliate him by letting him stick his hand out and wait for nothing. But I shook him. Then hurried to the convenience to wash my hand. <br />He's still a paedophile. And I'm still angry that I haven't caught him red handed and can do nothing about it, while he's still walking free, harming children. <br /><br />I'm not sure if I'm angry that he's free, or still angry at what he did. Everything's mixed up inside.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-60145545713951643572015-06-02T19:40:28.060+01:002015-06-02T19:40:28.060+01:00Noah- sad and hurtful but he has to ask God for gr...Noah- sad and hurtful but he has to ask God for grace to forgive his father. <br /><br />Lisa- Lisa needs to be thought that her action is telling Jesus that His blood is not sufficient to cleanse her past. That she is wiser than God in that He has forgiven and forgotten but she still remembers them.<br /><br />She has to be taught the love of God that is so deep and pure to make her a new creation. She needs to know that the Lisa that committed those atrocities is dead and that she is a new creation and one without a past.<br /><br />With knowledge would come forgiveness and letting go entirely. <br /><br />And she should ask for grace to use her past story to bless and caution other young peopleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-29440891251975649382015-06-02T19:40:04.901+01:002015-06-02T19:40:04.901+01:00Adam- In Adam's case, why is he really hurt? I...Adam- In Adam's case, why is he really hurt? Is it because he feels there is a dent to his reputation? Or because he believes that the name of Christ won't be exalted if those that knows him hears such news about him.<br /><br />As broken Christians, we must realize that we have no reputation to protect. Because in this lies pride that is so subtle that can be overlooked. <br /><br />When I hear something negative spread about me, why exactly am I hurt? Most times it stems from a heart that says "a whole me, how can people begin to believe this about me"<br /><br />We must get ready for the world to say and believe the worst about us. It shouldn't concern or bother us one bit as long as we are not in anyway encouraging those thoughts and perceptions. If I'm single and I always spend the weekend in a Bachelor's house though we just spend time praying and fasting, I have no right to feel that my name is slandered on account of my faith. <br /><br />But if I'm not engaging in such attitudes and I still hear rumors about me, it shouldn't bother me one bit. <br /><br />It's the flesh that revolts and is offended and the bible makes it very clear that the flesh must die daily. <br /><br />I remember once in my office where a senior partner tried to smear my name because I went for a Christian lawyers conference then at Calabar. He cooked up all sorts of stories because I attended with a christian lawyer in the office. He said we stayed in the same hotel room not even knowing that rooms were even paired not only on the basis of gender but also based on different chapters in the country to encourage relationship building.<br /><br />I was hurt until I was corrected<br /> by God. At the end of the day, I'm sure many got to know the true story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-70119086388618725312015-06-02T19:39:26.794+01:002015-06-02T19:39:26.794+01:00Thanks Myss Lafunky,
Let me address the different...Thanks Myss Lafunky,<br /><br />Let me address the different scenarios one after the other.<br /><br />1. Jessica and Andrew - Theirs is a very sad situation. The death of a child is very sad and causes all shades of pain to the parents and other loved ones. They need the grace of God to forgive and let go. However in their situation, there are two things involved.<br />I. Is the mistake or negligence of the Doctor a one off? One that a reasonable man can make. If it is, they can forgive and forget about the matter entirely. <br /><br />2. Is it a normal attitude of the doctor or Hospital staff entirely? You know how hospitals operate especially in this part of the world ie Nigeria. We have heard so many stories of the lackadaisical and "I don't care" approach that is typical of many in the medical sector. If this is the case, apart from forgiving, there may be need to inform the relevant authorities and the public to forestall future occurence. On that ground, you are protecting someone from going through the pain you feel.<br /><br />But in doing so, one has to search deeply and confirm that the motive for such actions are not just mere vindictive or vengeful. <br /><br />2. Sarah- Sarah is hurt because she feels betrayed by her best friend. It could be painful especially when there has been a huge investment in the relationship. She needs to confront her friend, listen to her explanation and even if she has none, ask for grace to forgive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-4970700336375130222015-06-02T19:39:01.663+01:002015-06-02T19:39:01.663+01:00i am not sure if charging someone to court means t...i am not sure if charging someone to court means that there is no forgiveness. For example, a serial killer should be put under lock and key so as not to repeatedly harm others. In this instance, it means that the affected family, just wants to keep others safe from the experience they have had even though they have forgiven. The offender has not repented and will still commit the crime.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-65758738156840294412015-06-02T19:38:33.410+01:002015-06-02T19:38:33.410+01:00I'm not sure re: if seeking justice means one ...I'm not sure re: if seeking justice means one has not forgiven.Mysses Lafunkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07860573756184786018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-46846670478685514782015-06-02T19:38:06.779+01:002015-06-02T19:38:06.779+01:00Thanks for your comment. I agree with your view. P...Thanks for your comment. I agree with your view. People usually say forgive and forget. Perhaps what they mean is that we won't be dwelling on past hurts and when we remember, we are no longer hurt neither are we trying to seek revenge.Mysses Lafunkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07860573756184786018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-54639853133299124592015-06-02T19:37:27.565+01:002015-06-02T19:37:27.565+01:00Forgiveness is actually easier said than done. Yes...Forgiveness is actually easier said than done. Yes, I would, by His help. <br /><br />I recently had to let someone go over an offence that kept coming in different versions over years. I didn't want to admit I was holding grudges against the person until I decided to talk about it. I'm happy I was able to fully forgive even when the person tried to be defensive. <br /><br />Regarding your question, all the prayers might not be pushed aside, but some might be. It can also open doors for spiritual attacks/imprisonment like in the case of the unforgiving servant in Jesus' parable in Matthew 18:21-35. Above all, unforgiveness will make anybody miss heaven because it is forgiveness through faith in the Blood of Jesus that gives us access to heaven. If therefore that forgiveness is withdrawn because one refuses to forgive his/her brother, it means the access to heaven is closed.<br /><br />In my opinion though, forgiveness does not necessarily mean the offence is literally forgotten, but the sting, bitterness and hurt felt anytime it is remembered are no longer there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4490676943414191920.post-77857385781832941292015-06-02T19:36:51.707+01:002015-06-02T19:36:51.707+01:00Yes I would.
Jessica and Andrews situation will be...Yes I would.<br />Jessica and Andrews situation will be difficult. Any situation that involves loosing life is a difficult one. I remember reading the story of someone who watched her family being slaughtered in the holocaust. <br /><br />She became a preacher and during one of her ministrations whilst preaching forgiveness, who should come forward but one of the soldiers involved in the loss of her family. She remembered his face so well. That for me is a very difficult position to be in and takes forgiveness to a whole new level.<br /><br />Issues are real and life does take its toll. Forgiveness is a gradual process in some instances. I pray I never have to be in a position where it seems impossibleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com